True Life

A Letter to the Men in My Life

I have changed so much in the last four months. I have begun to take a lot more BS from people in general but especially men. When I said I wanted to change my attitude I didn't think it meant I would have to accept so much BS. But I think it comes with understanding that people aren't perfect, you can only set but so many stands for people because people aren't standardized and expectations need to be revamped when dealing with different people. I have also learned that if you set people on a pedestal they are guaranteed to fail because no one ever lives upto your expectations. Here is something I learned as I have grown:

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast. You'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much,and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Now, I am the first one to give someone else advise and it's usually pretty good advice. However, I never seem to take my own advise. From this day forth I plan on taking my own advise. And I will start by telling all the men in my life what I think of them. This is what I would say:

S,
it was nice while it lasted but I need something more. Something of substance and quality. The bootycall thing works best for us but it's not what I want. Now don't take what I am saying the wrong way. I don't want more from you I want more in general. I actually don't want anything from you. I have so little respect for you because you are 30, with two children, drive a jaguar and you live at home with your parents. I mean if I spend the night your Dad's breakfast is great but I would rather not be greeted by your Mom and little brother in the morning. When is it time to grow-up and be a man? I mean your childrens' mother is a little crazy but you just need to marry her, I don't get why she's good enough for you to continue sleeping with and having children with but not good enough to marry. You just need to grow-up and do right by that woman; she deserves at least that. But first you need to get your priorities straight. Partying every weekend, driving a jag and living at home is not what's up.

J,
I love the southern boy in you and the southern man in you but you need to leave the games alone. Lets be real for a second here you aren't single, you have two children, and you aren't making money just playing ball. I don't know and don't want to know what your doing but anyone driving a range, 760i, and a Benz and not playing in the NBA is not just playing ball; but do what works for you. Your green eyes drive me crazy and your accent is sexy but that's all I every think about when I think of you. Other than those superficial things I don't think you have much personality; it's actually kind dull. You never talk about anything other than how much money you spend, what you drive, etc. I hate to tell you but I DON'T CARE; I have my own car, I buy my own clothes, and I make my own money, I depend on me. The only women you are going to attract with that are golddigger and scalawags.

L,
I'm not upset I actually think it was funny. I mean who goes out of their way to do all of that when they have a girlfriend. You need to get it together. After six years you need to stop with the games. No hard feeling but I do want my damn book back; that's a signed copy.

E,
What can I say that has not already been said. You are a jerk. I have never regretted anything up until now; I regret ever meeting you. You are worse than L and he's a fool. Your problem is that playing basketball for a well renowned college and being a legend there has really got your head big. The ladies and everyone else have blown your ego up to where it's bigger than you and you can't control it. I hate to tell you but you aren't famous; I had never heard your name before and no one I know has a clue who you are. I mean you aren't even that great of a basketball player; if you were don't you think you would be in the NBA and not the CBA. You are nice looking but your f*cked up attitude makes you ugly. You let your insecurities get the best of you; if I wanted J I would be with him. You are so busy listening to other people about that situation if you had only asked I would have told you nothing but the truth. I don't want to be your friend, I don't want to date you, I don't even want to talk to you; actually I was hoping you would lose your phone with my number in it so that I didn't have to change my cell phone number. There will never be anything between us because I can't stand you. You are a little crazy and I mean scary crazy, you are childish to an extreme, and your personality, well that would be okay if you didn't think you were God's gift to earth. Grow-up and believe that there is always someone faster, smarter, and better looking than you; once you realize that maybe your ego will be brought back to this planet and you would be an okay guy.

With all of that off my chest I feel a lot better. Maybe I'll link this in my away message so they can all see how I really feel. Or maybe some things are better left unsaid.

posted by no_more_drama @ 1:06 AM